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You, my first born son are halfway to Becoming A Man.  At 9 yrs. old, I’ve had your for half.  Lord willing, I’ll “have” you for 9 more years before you carry all your earthly possessions off to a an overly crowed dorm room.  In 9 yrs. you’ll still be my baby -always- but in […]

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For awhile my boys felt like they were out of my reach.  Last Fall, when I wrote this heartbreaking post, I’d been feeling this intolerable fear that I wasn’t what my boys needed me to be. After the post, My friend Jodi texted me, “are you okay? What is going on??” I tried to explain […]

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A few days ago, I took my boys to our favorite haven on Lake Michigan.  Last summer, the three of us made the 45 minute trek to Lake Michigan just about every Saturday. But this year, I’ve had an indoor/outdoor apartment pool which has significantly slowed our beach going ways. It hit me last week, […]

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Read & Reading: I’m only half way through We’ll Always Have Paris.  Such. good. funny. writing.  Perfect beach/pool book! I wrote a mini review of You’re Going to Be Okay by Holley Gerth.  For those of you in the midst of tough times, I strongly recommend it.  It helped elevate me over my funk. It […]

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One of the best parts of parenting is doing ALL THE THINGS I’m interested in but would never make time for without my curious boys.  I love monkeys, apes, chimps.  The whole primate family & I are family.  I’ve taken to subtle yet manipulative manuevers such as checking out every library book that has anything […]

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Last Sunday, I took my boys to our new black Church.  When we pulled into the parking lot, Ransom (8.5) sighed. “Ugh. Mama, I don’t want to go this one.  I wanted to go to Daddy’s (white) Church!” Rhysie (4.5), of course, followed suit.  “Yeah, Mama.  I didn’t want to go to this one.” I […]

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I am racially Italian-American & African-American.  I am a biracial, self-identifying, culturally & ethnically black American woman living in the segregated Midwest.  I grew up in Detroit, one of the most segregated cities in America. I am often mistaken for being Latina-American & one time, white.  Outside of the U.S. in countries as varied as […]

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Around this time last year, I made the mistake of putting off enrolling Rhysie in 3’s pre-school for the Fall.  When the Fall rolled around I couldn’t find a single school that would take him except the pricey private schools.  Man, that was an oversight.  All year, Rhysie’s asked when he gets to go to […]

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