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When Whites Just Don't Get It by Nicholas Kristof Come up Higher by Lisha Epperson 7 Highly Effective Ways to Raise Lazy & Entitled Children for Balancing Beauty & Bedlam Three Troubling Things Exposed by the Ferguson Police Shooting of Michael Brown for the Washington Post. Teen who Got into ALL 8 Ivy League Schools Makes His Choice for CBS News. He's a black male & with all … [Read More...]



For awhile my boys felt like they were out of my reach.  Last Fall, when I wrote this heartbreaking post, I'd been feeling this intolerable fear that I wasn't what my boys needed me to be. After the post, My friend Jodi texted me, "are you okay? What is going on??" I tried to explain why the heaviness wouldn't pass.  She urged me not to believe the lies. The lies. When I gave birth to my … [Read More...]

VIDEO: Letting the Stupid Little Nigger Go

You can watch me read & sob my way through reading my piece, Letting the Stupid Little Nigger Go at Blogher '14. "For me, growing up black in America meant carrying that sentence was EASY.  I was less than, and what was proven over and over and over and over and over again is that our … [Read More...]


To #Succeed. Searching to #FindTheWords

In late July, I parlayed all over the San Jose Conference Center, soaking up every doggone minute of the Blogher '14 conference which was EVERYTHING. I'd been chosen as A Voice of the Year & asked to read my self-nominated piece, Letting The Stupid Little Nigger Go.  (You can watch my … [Read More...]

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Woncha Take A Risk?

A few days ago, I took my boys to our favorite haven on Lake Michigan.  Last summer, the three of us made the 45 minute trek to Lake Michigan just about every Saturday. But this year, I've had an indoor/outdoor apartment pool which has significantly slowed our beach going ways. It hit me last … [Read More...]


In the Matter of Biskie vs. Biskie

A few weeks ago, Dave & I stepped into a cold, dingy, wooden, sterile court-room. I'd brought pertinent papers in a legal pad folder, with a soft, squishy front panel.  We waited for so long that I ended up sitting on my folder because my butt bones hurt.  Even to my behind, this room was … [Read More...]


August 25

The three weeks before I left for the Blogher Conference were the heaviest. Everrrrrrrrr.  I'm talkin' heavy, heavy cinch sack.  For the 1st time in my life … [Read More...]


Amazing grace: that saved a RATCHET ASS like me

This is MY & OUR story. My story is that I like to write.  That may be the STUPIDEST understatement of the year because I can't NOT write: even when I … [Read More...]


I Missed the Memo on How to Relate to God when “Living in Sin”

“Grace, you are living in sin.” What does it mean to be living “in sin?”  Ya know, as opposed to every human being’s regular old daily sin habit –lust in the … [Read More...]


What Fighting Racism is Like as a Black Woman

Your necessary air is restricted.  You take short breaths.  You wait for relief.  One day, it hurt so bad you took a viability assessment.  Will you … [Read More...]


What I’m Into {June 2014}

Read & Reading: I'm only half way through We'll Always Have Paris.  Such. good. funny. writing.  Perfect beach/pool book! I wrote a mini review of … [Read More...]


My Writing Process

Participating today in the #ShareTheLove blog tour.  I was invited by the sweetest Chicagoan journalist, Emily Miller who I simply refer to as Emmille … [Read More...]


I am Going to Be Okay

On a whim, I picked up Holly Gerth's newest book, You're Going to Be Okay from the library.  Mostly because I have made soooooo many mistakes in the past … [Read More...]

Zevlyn and Zyaire

A love flash mob for Zevelyn

Over the last year I've been super-duper inspired by Glennon Doyle Melton leading the charge in raising big bucks for families in desperate need through Love … [Read More...]

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When a Snake Eats A Boy

One of the best parts of parenting is doing ALL THE THINGS I'm interested in but would never make time for without my curious boys.  I love monkeys, apes, … [Read More...]


On Juneteenth and retraumatizing storytelling: What #TakeDownThatPost Meant for Me

I learned something extremely useful the other day from my online interactions with the lovely, Bethany Suckrow after I wrote this post a few days ago in which … [Read More...]