See How They Love One Another – #BlackLivesMatterSunday

Around 260 AD the second of two great plagues killed much of the world.  It was estimated two thirds of Alexandria died as result.  Frightened people immediately began to shove diseased loved ones outside. They were dumped in roadways before they died and the dead were left unburied.  Many who fled died of this epidemic, as it was nearly inescapable. The Christians responded differently. They … [Read More...]

A ranty two cents on #BlackLivesMatter

I've wanted to write more (articles, posts, novels, books, etc.) on why #BlackLivesMatter & throw in my .2 cents on #Ferguson...this movement that's global now because The Rest ALL READY hated The West & now -thankfully- they have something they can stand WITH us on, but there isn't anything eloquent or p.c. about the simplistic anger I feel: white folks in power keep killing black … [Read More...]


The Shame Oh the Shame Oh the Shame

I hung out with some of my alumni recently.  (If you're new here...I worked in college ministry for 12 yrs.)  My guuuuurl, Tia noticed me lookin' all sad and dejected.  When we talked later, I told her it wasn't about anything she'd imagined, but just regular ole shame.  The type of shame that makes … [Read More...]


Worst 31Day’er Ever.

It's time for me to face facts: I SUCK at writing every day for #31Days.  Publicly, at least.  At the bare minimum, Ive produced words, ideas, prayers, grumbles, moans & drivel into journals almost every other day.  If not there, I type into Evernote when I know my fingers can't keep up the … [Read More...]


I Am Not Okay

Are you okay? They see you cry. They see you fall in a fast, steep crumble. Are you okay? There’s so much to fear, so much to worry about. They roll up their sleeves: what can be done? Is it going to be okay? Dunno, you say. //// Maybe not. Maybe it will hurt for an extraordinarily long … [Read More...]


I’m Getting Sober

The other day I FB'ed this: 'Any lengths to get "sober." Whatever your "sober" is, do it. Join me. Any length. Freedom is worth it. Just before I threw this onto the interwebs I'd been reading about a 4-day retreat geared towards adult survivors of childhood sexual abuse.  It's a … [Read More...]


The Realization

We put on the costumes tryin' to fit suburban hipster shit yo, look at me I can code switch! Is that well enough for you, Massa? "You don't fit here You … [Read More...]


What Gives Me Hope for The Church

I’m sitting on a double-decker, red-eye Megabus, Nashville bound, nonstop from Chicago. My friend bought me a ticket so I can join her at a retreat she created … [Read More...]


God Knits

"And now you ask me through your tears, the age-old question through the years: Heredity or environment, which are you the product of? Neither, my darling, … [Read More...]


Two wayward travellers stuck in a Geo with a guy named Vic.

Back in 1999, my friend Rodney made a VHS.  Yes, Chile, a V-H-S of six bootleg, ashy films on a 18 hr. videotape. (Those things that go into V-C-R's, Y'all).  I … [Read More...]


Why Are Black Women So Argumentative?

Okay. So. I saw this video titled "Why Are Black Women So Argumentative?" being discussed in the context of a safe space for black women.  There are so many … [Read More...]


Racism Distracted Me From Purity Culture

Yesterday a friend posted on Facebook from April Fiet about not praying for her children's future spouses.  After some comments back & forth on the Facebook … [Read More...]


Is it okay for me to look white?

This morning I saw my dear blogging friend, Osheta's post about writing every day in October on the same subject.  I wondered, could I do that? Mmmm... … [Read More...]


I Need To Say Something Entirely Different to White People

At the first stop, a white man produces a roll of duct tape.  Not even kidding.  A white man, mysteriously armed with duct tape.  He passes it around and helps … [Read More...]


For You, Netizen

When Whites Just Don't Get It by Nicholas Kristof Come up Higher by Lisha Epperson 7 Highly Effective Ways to Raise Lazy & Entitled Children for … [Read More...]



For awhile my boys felt like they were out of my reach.  Last Fall, when I wrote this heartbreaking post, I'd been feeling this intolerable fear that I wasn't … [Read More...]